‘How are you?’
A simple question with mostly a simple reply, ‘I’m fine thanks.’
We smile, avoid too much eye contact and go on our way, perhaps talking a bit about the weather if it seems a bit rude to pass by too quickly.
The thing is, how often do we actually ask ourselves that simple question, and allow ourselves to truly take the time to answer honestly?
I’m fine thanks. A bit worried about the state of the world just now. Wondering how I am going to manage the finances when the bills go up again in October. Need to find time for a visit to the Doctor as I have a few niggles, but don’t want to bother them when they are so busy. Feel a bit anxious about Covid and any other little things that want to take over the world just now and having a lot of trouble getting a good night’s sleep. Apart from that, and maybe losing my job in a couple of months, and nearly breaking my leg when I jumped up onto the couch when I thought I saw a spider, well you know, life’s good!
Solution focussed Hypnotherapy helps us learn to find the focussed relaxation we need to come up with answers to our situations and look at positive solutions for our futures. It can bring a calmer state of mind and help us to understand our frame of reference and make life changing ways of seeing things and understanding our situations, when we make that commitment to ourselves.
So the next time someone says, ‘How are you?’ Take a moment to consider these three little words and give yourself a mental check. It might help you to prioritise where your energy needs to be in order to focus on a solution or two to help you really feel fine, thanks.